Start a New Hobby

Think you have to spend money to have fun? Think again. Knit chicken sweaters? Living on a really tight budget because you want to get out of debt or retire

Going In Doesn’t Mean Going Deep

What’s wonderful about focusing is that it can disabuse us of the misconception that ‘going in’ (turning our attention inwardly) has to be going deep. Going inside can feel threatening in that it’s unfamiliar and intangible. If we go in, we might feel we cannot modulate how fast or far

Sulking Post Divorce

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Tarazan, a child of divorce, is depressed.

This headline caught my eye:  Boy Tarzan’s ma takes swing at dad in divorce. “The teenage star of Broadway’s “Tarzan” was hurt so much by a bitter feud between his

What Do I Do If My Child Refuses Visitation with Me?

Getting your child to eat vegetables they don’t like is one thing. Getting them to visit with a parent they don’t want to see is quite another. After a divorce, custody and visitation arrangements will almost always provide that the child needs to spend time with both parents on their

When it All Comes Down to the Blender: The Value of Personal Property in Divorce

Personal property, furnishings and personality are typically encompassed by the objects that reside in marital (and secondary) residences. Included in this group are furniture and tchotchkes, like that horrible thing from HomeGoods that seemed like such a good idea at the time, but now takes up half the dining room


4 Things I LOVE About My Therapist

I was opposed to talk therapy for quite sometime because I had the wrong therapists. After crashing and burning in college, I decided it was time to try again. Finally,

The “We Space”

The “we space” is what is created when two or more people are in a relationship. A couple has a different energy than each person on his own; a family has a whole dynamic greater than the sum of its parts. Sharing a story about your day might be a different experience

Managing Anger & Other Co-Parenting Challenges

Anger is a natural consequence of a relationship breakup or divorce. But not all anger is the same and it’s important to understand how anger is affecting not only your divorce, but also your life and your other relationships. Is anger seeping into your relationship with your kids? With your