5 Ways To Infuse Peace Into Your Life During & After Divorce
Our daily life is full of challenges and while the idea of finding inner peace might seem like an unrealistic goal in your current situation, I’m here to tell you that it is possible and it’s not as difficult as you think.
It does take a little more effort than simply clearing your mind to overcome certain obstacles however so let me share a few of my favorite techniques.
Set Limits for Yourself
I used to have a list of tasks I needed to complete every single day. No one was telling me I had to get them done… but that didn’t stop me from stressing constantly, trying to make sure that I went to bed with everything taken care of.
Living this way is far from practical. You need to evaluate what’s really important and get done what really needs to be done without overworking yourself in the process. If you don’t have time for something, it’s okay to let it go until tomorrow even if it means you’re not living up to the “perfect” standards you’ve set yourself.
Keep yourself from checking your Facebook, Twitter, and Email every time you receive a notification as well because all this does is add more stress to your already hectic life.
Molehills Are NOT Mountains
Have you ever gone to the store and been so tired at the end of the day that you accidentally picked up decaf instead of regular coffee only to get home, realize your mistake and proceed to collapse onto the floor and cry? This is a perfect example of making a mountain out of a molehill.
When you’re faced with a problem, try taking a step back and looking at the issue with some perspective. Ask yourself how important it really is. Are you going to die if it’s not fixed? Does someone else on the planet have it worse than me right now? Am I going to care about this in the next five years?
All of these questions can help you see that sometimes the little things are better left alone to help on your journey to a more peaceful well being.
Declutter Your World
Did you know that your eyes are constantly scanning the room that you’re in even if you don’t realize it? With that in mind, if you have a cluttered mess surrounding you, it’s subconsciously going to make you more stressed because your mind is working harder to process all the chaos?
A clean environment free of clutter has been proven to not only increase productivity but to keep a person calmer and more relaxed so take five minutes every day and remove a few items from each room or even go out and buy a few bins for organization to keep things in order.
Let the Past Go
I cannot stress this one enough. Everyone has a past and it’s sometimes hard to move past a negative experience even years later. Sometimes it’s easier to just accept a situation a first. Give yourself to power to admit what happened so that it begins to lose its power.
What happened in the past can’t be changed no matter how much we’d like it too and there’s no way to go back so dwelling on thoughts and scenarios that could have changed the outcome isn’t going to make the situation better. All it’s doing is forcing you to relive something that you have absolutely no control of anymore.
This one might seem silly, but never underestimate the power of slowing down, closing your eyes and taking a few deep steadying breaths. In through your nose and out through your mouth. Don’t think, just do.
When your mind is running a million miles a minute and all you can see on the horizon is a laundry list of proble
ms, try two minutes of deep breathing where you actually say the words “In” and “Out” as you do it. This alone forces your mind off of what it’s on and allows you into a place where whatever is stressing you out doesn’t matter and when you’re done you can evaluate the present moment from a better vantage point.
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