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Aundie Donohue
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Aundie comes to IMO from a career grounded by fashion and design. "My enthusiasm for this work started when I studied fashion in the Lone Star State and later in Paris— the City of Lights". Aundie is a wardrobe stylist, clothing designer, eBay entrepreneur and project manager with Mary Kay, JC Penny, Neiman Marcus, Elle Magazine , Blue October to name a few.

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  1. Cait
    September 05, 20:46 Reply
    What's the best way for a person to deal with feelings of anger (I guess that would be the best way to describe it) towards an ex? As in, "I'm happily with someone now and I wish so-and-so could see me now and realize what they lost."
  2. Thom Slade
    September 06, 21:32 Reply
    Cait, You can't truly moveon and still wish "regret" on your ex... Well that's what I know to be true... But boy is that hard! I think we all secretly wish for that validation, but in the end, It's more important that you are truly happy in our new life and not looking back to what might have been. You get to that point and trust me the ex WILL be living with regret, but at that point you wont care, Thom
  3. Cesar Mondragon
    October 20, 15:02 Reply
    Do you really think marriages get to the point where divorce really is the only option?
    • Thom Slade
      October 22, 12:00 Reply
      I wish the answer was no... And I've known people that have had to work for years to turn it around and have done successfully. But in the end only those in the situation can know when its time to give up and moveon. Thom
  4. A healthy lifestyle
    October 26, 12:22 Reply
    This is not a question but I wanted to share! I never thought I'd be getting divorced; but here we are and there doesn't seem to be anything that can be done to stop it. I also didn't expect for our divorce to be so unhappy, frustrating, aggravating and just downright devastating sometimes. My ex-husband became almost impossible to handle, and I knew that our divorce was not going to be pretty. Thanks to the wonderful articles on mediation and getting through a divorce, I knew that there was something I could do to try to make this process at least a little less horrible. I couldn't be more thankful for the wonderful advice, information, and now that we have a mediator we're actually making progress! Plus I know when I'm ready to date again, there is helpful information on moving on with my life too. This website has definitely saved my sanity during my divorce.
    • Thom Slade
      October 27, 13:25 Reply
      Thanks you for your encouraging comments and insights and would love to hear more about your transition into "a healthy lifestyle" Why not write an article and inspire others? Would love to hear your voice. Thom
  5. Asktrees314
    February 24, 09:47 Reply
    I can't believe that I'm getting a divorce... I'm finding myself in a place that I never thought possible, and I honestly just don't know how to navigate the whole thing. I don't know how to feel, what to think, and I definitely don't know what in the world I'm supposed to do with my life, and love life. My recently divorced friend recommended to me, and I honestly couldn't be more grateful. I am finally starting to see a little bit of a light at the end of the tunnel! Knowing I'm not alone, and that there are a lot of other people going through the same thing, is exactly what I needed. It even helped me realize to change divorce attorneys thanks to a really helpful article that explained all the issues I was having with mine. I will definitely be taking advantage of the information on this site for a long time to come. Thank you for making it a little easier for those of us going through hard times.
    • Thom Slade
      February 24, 10:17 Reply
      Asktrees314 I wanted to respond and tell you how much we appreciate your comment and openness. I also hope at some point that you will also share your story and journey with us, and help us, help others. With Love, Thom and Team

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