Balancing Act & The Art of D.I.(wh)Y.

Balancing Act & The Art of D.I.(wh)Y.

I’ve moved on… To Dentistry

Dentistry DIY?

Dentistry DIY?

“I can’t go to school today” sob, sob. ” I can’t eat breakfast” whine, whine. My braces are broken and stabbing my cheek” windge, windge.

Some mornings, are some mornings.

Luckily, when I was convinced that I could keep the day on schedule and pulled out the trusty rusty needle-nose pliers before my conference call, I took a breath. Pulled out of dentistry, to delegate to the eldest  to take his brother to the dentist. Big Brother = live-in Nanny.

Lemonade out of Lemons, and I didn’t even have to sterilize my tools.

The Balancing Act & the Daily Schedule

One of life’s greatest challenges is the balancing act between wanting to be the worlds best in the boardroom and the in the homeroom. Both worlds tug at the heart in different ways and have different short and long term benefits. We have all used the excuse that the extra hours in the office or on the road were what paid for the trip to Magic Kingdom and the best vacation ever. But what about the other 51 weeks of the year?

My ex and I started our family in college. So learning to have fun as a family with not much was our reality. It never seemed like “making do”, but it was an adventure every day watching our baby grow and growing with each other.

After college the dream seemed to shift to something always better. Not that there is anything wrong with aspirations, but not understating the delicate balancing act of want and need is a downfall to many marriages and home life. My thoughts back then were that by investing my time and energy in the corporate ladder  I was investing in the future of my growing family. That through thick and thin we would provide for each other and each new house, car or vacation would make us a closer family. The reality is that these things are all distractions and it is a delicate balancing act between seeking fulfillment inside and outside the home. We must carefully weigh out the pros and cons of each corporate move and  soccer coaching position we take on to make sure that our partner is there with us and together we parent our children.

 

 

Parenting (or child rearing) is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood”http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parenting
Promoting, Supporting and Developing are all long term processes that are labor and time intensive. Time is the one thing we all have a limited amount of. No matter how much money you make you cannot create more of it. Now it is true that wealth has its advantages. Growing up my mother had to work a lot of long hours to keep food on the table, which meant less time playing Legos. But the times we had sword fighting with rolled up newspapers or the walks home after school with a small back of sweets were an investment of time that gave me great memories.

One of the top ten most common New Year resolutions is “to spend more time with family”. The key word is Time. This year try to focus less on learning dentistry and more on Promoting Supporting and Developing with your child:

  • Physical – Go throw a ball, take a walk in the park, swim and wrestle more
  • Emotional – Be open to cry together, and discuss their challenges, hug lots
  • Social – Coach or get your child involved in a team, and be part of it yourself even if it is helping set up cones at practice, invite play dates (even for teens) where there is a game night interaction between parents and the kids
  • Intellectual – Talk to them. Not just about their day at school, but what interests them,  learn about what inspires them, buys some paint and create together, discuss whatever book they are into.

 And the Cornerstone of all these activities… invest time.  Time is what your child cherishes the most.

Thom

p.s Let us know some of your thoughts on Parenting or Dentistry…

Resources
http://onetoughjob.org/ – The Children’s Trust created One Tough Job to support parents by providing them with current, reliable, and practical information on a variety of parenting topics related to raising children from infancy through adolescence. We aim to provide a general overview of topics, drawing from a variety of reputable and reliable sources.
http://www.parenting.com/ – After you have a child, everyone has an opinion (and they like to share it) about how you should raise Junior. Use our parenting advice to cut through the outdated research or tips that don’t work for your child’s special traits and find your own parenting groove.

http://www.singleparentadvocate.org/ -1 in 4 children in the US are growing up in a single parent home.  Single mothers and fathers have much higher likelihood to live in poverty, as they face incredible work/life balance issues.  Single Parent Families have unique needs and issues constantly affecting their inability to overcome ruin.  The emotional and financial toll on most of these families is actually helping to create an even younger population of single parents who are just children themselves.

Single Parent Advocate is committed to breaking this cycle and to help build resource connections for families that help them to become more productive, more resourceful and more informed on how to be the best parent they can be for their children.


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Thom Slade
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“Healing for the broken hearted. A map, guide and community to move on positively/fantastically in life with a healthy beaming smile”
Thom. Thom is the originator and alter-ego of ivemovedon.com. Divorce Survivor, Single Parent, and now moving on to new adventures in Life. Follow his journey here every week, or on Instagram and Facebook.

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2 Comments

  1. Thom Slade
    January 27, 18:23 Reply
    Forwarded Comment - Work/life balance- being able to determine which aspect wins focus based on the circumstance. I may not be able to attend a work thing because home needs me to get them to activities. But sometimes work wins and that's ok as long as no one suffers. Not one can win focus all the time. Hence balance. Thanks BC
  2. Madison Knox
    September 16, 21:12 Reply
    It's often hard to balance everything! I have to make a list and schedule times to do things, otherwise things get out of control!

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