Can You Die From a Broken Heart This Christmas?

Can You Die From a Broken Heart This Christmas?

Death or Rebirth for the Broken Hearted?

Death or Rebirth for the Broken Hearted?

“I went to a funeral recently for a couple who died within a week of each other.

Then I read a story in the news last week about a man in California who died hours after his wife. It made me wonder how often this happens – and what could be the reason.

When Margaret Williams died in Wales last month, her husband Edmund selected the poems for her funeral. They had been married for 60 years and their love had endured. In their late 80s, they would still go into their garden holding hands.

Then, a week after Margaret’s death, Edmund himself died. In his grief, he stopped living. Her funeral became their funeral – two coffins beside each other, the couple united in death as they had been in life. The poem he had written for her, and chosen for the service, was read for them both.

The same month, also in Wales, 101-year-old Clifford Hartland died while he was waiting for his wife, Marjorie, to return home from hospital after being discharged with a broken leg. Their daughter Christine said that her mother phoned her that evening in distress, and Christine told her to think about their happy years of marriage while she drifted off to sleep. Marjorie died at 01:00 that night on the couple’s 76th wedding anniversary”

Ok, I added “this Christmas” for dramatic relevance…

I recently read this article (read more at http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-28756374) and it did make me think of the pain of divorce and especially how it felt around the Holidays. I remember back to my first year at Christmas being alone, and looking desperately out the kitchen window waiting on  my kids to stop by and open gifts. It was miserable, and a place I never want to return.

So what have I learned?

No matter what the pain, how lost or lonely you feel, It does get better. The process of “moving on” takes time. Their is no such thing as quick healing and  everyone has to deal with their own journey in their own time. Once you realize this, your sentence in heart break purgatory is greatly reduced.

What to do

  1. Get busy – from shopping, to decorating the house, to finally catching up on those end of year emails. Use your time to fill some time. This is not an escape, but this is not the season to sit and mope.
  2. Do something new – For Self – take a yoga class, join the gym, or go pick a new book or something for yourself. After a long relationship, we forget sometimes what “we” like. So go do something that you want to do.
  3. Do something new – For Others or with Others – Help out at the homeless shelter, visit friends and bring great wine, get your already late Christmas cards finished, reach out to other singles and head out  to eat, hike or take a last minute trip.

Now if you need quiet time, then take quiet time. But don’t sit and rework the issues. The past is the past. Learn from it, and make 2015 a fantastic year where you will learn something new, meet someone new and become the new YOU.

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays,

Thom

P.S. Not to ruin the article…. but… NO YOU WILL NOT DIE FROM YOUR CURRENT HEART BREAK!

Of that I am 98.68% positive…. So join us and Move On> https://ivemovedon.com/join/

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Thom Slade
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“Healing for the broken hearted. A map, guide and community to move on positively/fantastically in life with a healthy beaming smile”
Thom. Thom is the originator and alter-ego of ivemovedon.com. Divorce Survivor, Single Parent, and now moving on to new adventures in Life. Follow his journey here every week, or on Instagram and Facebook.

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1 Comment

  1. Jane
    August 20, 04:19 Reply
    This is great advice. Christmas must surely be one of the toughest times for divorcees and their families. It's very hard not to feel sorry for yourself when you see adverts and films going on about love and family, whilst you are alone or suffering from a break up. I think your best tip is to do things for others. It's really important to remember that even if you feel rejected by your ex-partner, you are needed badly by loads of people in your community: friends, the elderly, the homeless, the sick and others. Christmas (and other times) is a great opportunity to help others and feel needed. You really can transform someone's life with a good deed and this fact should help you forget about your own troubles (for a while at least).

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