Coping with What You’ll Probably Feel after Divorce
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Coping with What You’ll Probably Feel after Divorce

Whether you’ve been in a long term relationship or marriage, coming to the end of the road can leave you to feel unprepared for what’s to happen in the emotional department. A rollercoaster of feelings can take place. At one point, you’ll feel relieved about not having to deal with the day to day drama with your ex. However, you’ll also tend to miss the bond you’ve had with him or her.

The feelings which come with a break up will always suck, and you’ll never be prepared for some emotional road blocks you’ll encounter. Still it helps to be somehow aware and brace up for any similar thoughts which might come to your mind. These may include:

A Sense of Loneliness and Level of Anxiety

When all has been said and done, you’ve packed up your stuff and attempted to de-clutter everything which might be related to your ex, you won’t help but feel an emotional void. What comes with purging out all the negative feelings, would be remembering the good times you’ve spent with your ex-partner. You’ll feel alone and essentially unsure of how to face all the fun and challenging aspects of your life by yourself.

However, you must never despair. This would be the perfect time to cry your eyes out and afterwards, find the courage to go out and pamper yourself. You can get a haircut, go shopping, get a massage or even go on a vacation. You must take the time to treat yourself with all the good things within your budget, and see this as a way of loving yourself. This would be the most perfect time to put yourself first.

A Feeling of Disorganization or Getting Easily Disoriented

If you’ve been in a long term relationship, you will probably have worked up a schedule to deal with the daily duties of everyday. It can be about sending and picking up the kids from school, getting some groceries, having the car washed or even taking your pet to the vet. If you’re a divorcee, there would probably be sets of emotional roller coasters as you meet your ex-spouse to talk about some errands which are especially related to your children.

A good mindset would be to think of leaving your emotions out the window and put your children’s needs first. This is when you’re meeting with the ex. You can, however, address these feelings before (in the preparation of) and after the meeting.

If you have a sense of emptiness since your errands have turned into chores instead of what used to be opportunities to bond, you can take on a new hobby so you’ll be emotionally distracted from the pains of fulfilling responsibilities while still having to see your ex.

These two major feelings are just very few of the many emotions you’ll encounter after a breakup. It’s ultimately advisable for you to see a therapist who specializes in divorce. This way, you will be better guided towards finding your way to move on and have a better life after a separation.

However, you must never despair. This would be the perfect time to cry your eyes out and afterwards, find the courage to go out and pamper yourself. You can get a haircut, go shopping, get a massage or even go on a vacation. You must take the time to treat yourself with all the good things within your budget, and see this as a way of loving yourself. This would be the most perfect time to put yourself first.

A Feeling of Disorganization or Getting Easily Disoriented

If you’ve been in a long term relationship, you will probably have worked up a schedule to deal with the daily duties of everyday. It can be about sending and picking up the kids from school, getting some groceries, having the car washed or even taking your pet to the vet. If you’re a divorcee, there would probably be sets of emotional roller coasters as you meet your ex-spouse to talk about some errands which are especially related to your children.

A good mindset would be to think of leaving your emotions out the window and put your children’s needs first. This is when you’re meeting with the ex. You can, however, address these feelings before (in the preparation of) and after the meeting.

If you have a sense of emptiness since your errands have turned into chores instead of what used to be opportunities to bond, you can take on a new hobby so you’ll be emotionally distracted from the pains of fulfilling responsibilities while still having to see your ex.

These two major feelings are just very few of the many emotions you’ll encounter after a breakup. It’s ultimately advisable for you to see a therapist who specializes in divorce. This way, you will be better guided towards finding your way to move on and have a better life after a separation.

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