Dealing with Divorce in your 20’s
Divorce is never an easy thing, especially when you are dealing a separation early on in your life. Divorcing in your 20’s may seem like it’s the end of the world, but there’s a lot of data showing that you aren’t alone. In fact according to most experts and paralegal analysts, most marriages before the age of 23 end up in divorce. Whether from unstable finances or not being ready to commit to the lifelong promise of marriage, divorce is a growing problem among young people.
And it’s not just young people either, because the majority of first divorces occur in the early 30’s. This gives most marriage shelf lives set at around 8 years for those people getting married in their early 20’s. Regardless of whether or not this criterion applies to you and the difficult process you are going through, you must reassure yourself that there are others that are going through the same thing. Here are just a few tips to remember about your divorce and how to move on if you are in your early 20’s.
- Time Heals all wounds
Because you are in your early 20’s, don’t forget that time will heal eventually. What may seem like the end of the world now isn’t going to be later on in your life. Sunshine is ahead and it’s just a matter of time before it pokes through the storm clouds over your life now.
- Finances and debt recovery
Debt and finances are often mishandled in divorces, particularly when spouses try to handle their divorces themselves. Whatever your financial situation may be, don’t forget that you can recover from debt and build up your financial future once the divorce is behind you.
- Take some alone time
When going through a painful and difficult divorce, you should take time out and set aside some time to find yourself. This helps you reconnect and remember who you are, and hopefully will restore your confidence. Keeping yourself in good mental health and looking your best helps you move on from this difficult time.
- Find your support system
When you are freshly separated there can be a time when you are alone or may struggle. This is why a support system is so important to you and your situation. You might not have enough experience running your home, and a few good friends can really help you keep your bearings. Being alone may be something that’s completely foreign to you, especially if you are in a difficult financial situation.
You may also find yourself losing friends and people you once considered family. This is why finding your support system and friends that are willing to stick with you through the thick and thin of your divorce is key. Plan ahead and find people in your life that you can lean on that have no conflict of loyalty between you and your spouse. Connect with them so that you can get the help you need through this difficult time.
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