How to Get Through a Contentious Divorce

How to Get Through a Contentious Divorce

Going through a divorce is a difficult process. From making the decision to move forward to heading into court, there are many stops on the long road to the dissolution of your marriage. Along this path there are also many places for each spouse to make the situation more difficult for the other. A contentious divorce can take twice as long and cost twice as much as a divorce in which the spouses agree on how to move forward or are at least willing to work with one another. If you are facing a contentious divorce, there are certain steps you can take to get through the situation as smoothly as possible. For more information on how to get what you need during a difficult divorce, contact experienced Chicago divorce attorney Michael C. Craven at (312) 621-5234.

Put Your Feelings Aside

There is no way to completely separate your feelings from the process of the divorce. Your emotions can range from grief to anger when you are trying to move on from a bad marriage. But to be successful, you have to strategize, not make decisions based on your anger, fear, or hurt. In order to make smart and healthy decisions during your divorce, you should work closely with your attorney to look at the objective facts of the situation. Your lawyer will help you make decisions that will help you in the future.

Protect Your Children

Children are often hurt by a contentious divorce. Even when the anger is between the parents, this negativity can easily spread to each parent’s relationship with the children. The best thing to do is to try and maintain each parent’s relationship with the children, so long as there is no evidence of abuse. Be honest with your children about the process of the divorce, but remain positive with them about the other parent and the future they have with both of you.

Be Clear On Your Priorities 

 You are going to have to make tough choices during a divorce. It is easier to do this if you have your priorities in regard to the outcome of the divorce clearly defined. You and your attorney will discuss what you need and want from your divorce, which could include a property settlement, keeping the family home, part of retirement savings or other investments, and more. If you and your attorney are not clear on your priorities, it can make it difficult to negotiate with your spouse or to make a decision when faced with a tough choice.

Ask for Professional Help

It is crucial to have an experienced attorney during a difficult divorce. However, this may not be the only professional you need. Many individuals benefit from financial advisors, forensic accountants, and child specialists. By building a team of professionals who are experienced in navigating contentious divorces, you can learn more about your options for negotiating tough situations and getting what you or your children need from the divorce.

Hire an Attorney Well-Versed in Contentious Cases

Most individuals know if they are headed for a contentious divorce before anyone files the paperwork. If you know or believe your spouse will want to make things difficult, look for an attorney who specifically has experience in contentious divorces like Michael C. Craven. You need an attorney who understands how to handle underhanded tactics and is ready to head to court and fight for what you deserve.

For more information on working through a difficult divorce, contact Michael C. Craven at (312) 621-5234.

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Michael C. Craven is a well-known divorce attorney in Chicago, CPA and a partner of the law firm, Harrison & Held, LLP, located in the Chicago area. He is highly respected among other divorce attorneys, judges and his clients. He also holds a Master of Tax Law Degree (LLM). For more information about his services, contact Michael at or at Divorce Lawyers Chicago.

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