How to Let Insults Roll off Like Water under the Bridge
Have you been insulted by someone you love?
It sure hurts. It hurts a lot.
In fact, the pain is impossible of being compared or associated with something else. Emotional pain from insults coming out of people you love or care about is the deepest. It’s likely to be even more damaging than actual physical wounds. One of the most common situations in which loved ones tend to dramatically insult each other is in the environment of the divorce.
Why? You might ask. Well, it’s simple – physical wounds heal while the emotional pain from a devastating insult from someone you loved the most in this world could damage you for life. So, how do you get over things like this? How do you not let insults get to you? It’s hard – we are not going to lie. But if you are determined enough, you can pull it off. Let’s cut to the chase.
Do you know how much you are worth? Do you know your place in society and amongst others? Of course, you do! Everybody does. However, that’s what has to keep you going. You know how much you are worth, and that’s the cornerstone of your immunity to insults. Once you realize your self-worth, you would quickly start realizing how shallow and empty those insults really are. They barely mean anything at all. They are just the way someone perceives you – it has nothing to do with reality.
Perceptions are subjective, and that’s something you have to understand. They are especially twisted in the divorce environment because they are coming out of someone who is inclined to think worse of you just because he needs to justify his actions.
Don’t Dig Deeper
Keep in mind that the insults that you receive are nothing more than the reflection of the one who is actually saying them out loud. This is especially true when it comes to fights deriving throughout the process of divorce. Former or soon-to-be husbands and wives are often saying hurtful things to each other. However, in the majority of the situations the insults you say out loud are likely to be a representation of your own personal flaws.
Have a proper acknowledgement of yourself and you would quickly see how insults are going to start rolling off like water drops. You would start seeing how much better it is not to let opinions of others get to you, even if it comes from someone you love. It may sound hard, but it’s definitely achievable.