I don’t see what you see!
We all try to avoid confronting other people or being confronted. We often see “confrontation” as a negative form of communication.
Confrontation should not carry a negative energy; it should be demonstrated genuinely and positively. It must give the person we are confronting the message that we want to move forward with them. When we are confronting someone it means that we are willing to work on something with them, it means that we respect and care for them enough to be willing to face a possible awkward and uncomfortable conversation to resolve the conflict.
However there are polite/impolite ways to confront our loved ones. If not done right, it can cause damage to our relationship with whomever we are confronting, whether it’s our partner, family members, or co-workers.
Here are some tips to start a conversation with someone who we want to confront (at the right time and place of course):
“It sounds like we disagree on this.”
“I see it differently; here’s why.”
“I think we need time to try to understand our differences.”
“What you seem to be saying is that you disagree with my observations.”
“Let me tell you how I see it, and then you tell me whether you disagree.”
“I think we need another opinion.”
“I appreciate your opinion, but I disagree and I want you to appreciate mine.”
What the statements above do, is leave room for negotiation, they leave an open space for our partner to voice their opinion as well, they are open-ended and settle, they have no definite or harsh notion to them, therefore, there is less chance of coming across as disrespectful and insensitive.
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