So………you got through the holidays, congratulations! Were any of you assertive and had your own party rather than wait for invitations that didn’t come? Maybe you had a cozy night wrapped in your robe, sitting in front of the fire, a small glass of pinot noir in hand, recording your feelings, and writing down all your plans, dreams and goals for 2017 and beyond?
Or…………. did you sit in front of the fire with your third tumbler of Jack and coke, tears streaming down your face, throwing his clothes, pictures and other belongings in the fire, swearing his name loud and clear with each toss of a memory, your teeth bared, your eyes popping out of your head, and the neighbors wondering just what’s going on over there?
Guess what? They’re both ok. We express our grief in different ways. Grief is a way of letting go and any way you do it is FINE! Let go, let go, let go, in any way you can. But……if you find you get “stuck” in the rage version, see your therapist (or me). Rage has its place, but is dangerous and unhealthy both mentally and physically when it becomes a lifestyle. Breathe, breathe, breathe until you can find the phone number of someone to call.