Restarting After 40

Restarting After 40

So, I was talking to a friend the other day about how their life has drastically (and almost instantly) changed since their divorce began.  I heard things like “this person that I used to (and probably still) love is behaving horribly, intentionally causing angst and trying to stir up legal issues regarding their child for no reason, and seems not to care one iota about being reasonable and/or rational in terms of trying to resolve this ‘partnership’ respectfully and in a state where we could at least maintain some ‘civility’ ”…and then a statement was said that I have been thinking about ever since – “the fact is, I’m over 40 and I have to figure out how to start over now…”

The amount of worry, stress, and fear I saw in my friend almost seemed unbearable and has made me want to try and help…I mean really help…along the lines of helping them start to create and see a new vision, a new future, one that they can focus on and get excited about.

All of my life I have had a keen interest in trying to help people, in self development and high performance, and in learning ways to create and control one’s own destiny.  However, it wasn’t until recently that I have actually began to gain clarity in those areas as it relates to my own “vision” and “purpose” (i.e., specifically, what I want to achieve for myself in this short lifetime on this planet) .  Haven’t you asked yourself this question before?

The thing I’ve just realized is that the reason I have come to this awareness and knowledge is because I too have been forced to start over (after 40).  However, today I look at it with incredible gratitude and am quite thankful for this unanticipated and “forced” opportunity.

Therefore, it is my hope that with these writings I may, in some small way, help someone find their own way out of their own darkness and back into this world filled with light, energy, clarity, passion, and purpose.

Please feel free to continue this conversation with me by commenting below.

For now, I will leave you with a few things that I personally did that really helped to jump start me to move beyond my situational “funk” – maybe they will be helpful to you as well.

  1. I decided to accomplish one thing (in a reasonably short amount of time) that felt utterly impossible.  For me, this was deciding to run a half marathon (13.1 miles).  I wrote a bit about it here if you’re interested.
    Next, I started looking for people who were smarter, healthier, and more energetic than me – that appeared to live life as an example of the life I wanted to create.
  2. Then, I started talking to those people and learning as much as could from greats like Tony Robbins, Brendon Burchard, and Mel Robbins.
  3. And, I allowed myself to be vulnerable and scared and then decided to move past the fear.
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Christina is a project manager turned startup coach who has found “life after corporate” with great gratitude toward startups like,,,,,,,, and rainint'l (just to name a few). She continues her journey by helping to increase productivity & performance, striving to matter through making a difference, and constantly being a work in progress.

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