Not the song by Britney Spears although, I love that one.
I’m talking about the people that you surround yourself with. Your loved ones, work colleagues and those in your community. These relationships can be a positive or negative experience on your life. Sometimes it is very hard to distinguish between the two, and not getting it right can lead to broken relationships and disappointment.
Do you have someone in your life right now that seems to contaminate your personality? I don’t mean they leak green ooze on your shoes when your next to them. But, they may leak negativity, anger or behavioral traits that you may not be proud of.
If you’re in the US, you just survived Thanksgiving, and the gathering of the clans from far and wide. But if not a family member, what about be your ex!!! Is there another such specially trained person in the skilled art of pushing all your buttons?
You may also have a toxic place. It could be your local tavern or your place of work. If its your work you may not have a choice on those that you associate, and to make the day smoother you might join in with the antics of the boss that do not fit your personal morality or judgement.
This subject of people places and responsibility was the subject was an interesting point of discussion at a church I visited a couple of weeks ago. The question came whether it depended on your strength of character or environment. That those with weak character are more effected by others and their circumstances. I have never thought of myself as week person but a strong individual and leader. But there are many instances in my life where I have failed and done things that I greatly regretted. What can be hilarious at the time, can gnaw on you over time. So if it is more a mix of toxic people, toxic environments and toxic self then the key to personal growth and freedom comes from the following –
- Making right choices and decisions.
- Be who you are. Not what others expect of you or your past.
- Don’t hang out in the pig sty and expect not to stink.
- When you make a mistake move on quickly don’t dwell on it or make your future decisions based on your past actions.
- Each day can be a new day. Make the decision to start fresh.
- If you hurt others ask for their forgiveness, if you hurt yourself forgive yourself and make the commitment that next time (as there will be one) you will make the right decision.
- Character. Hold on to it. Protect it. Nurture It.
“Be your Own Reflection Not a Reflection of Others”
Lowering my Toxicity,
PS. I know it’s in your head now so here’s the classic…