‘Twas the Week Before Christmas…

‘Twas the Week Before Christmas…

… When all through the house, a madness was covering,
Funny retro car

as nothing was delivered, not even the stuffed mouse…”

Holy Mackerel, I used to loooooove Christmas.

Why has it become such an annual beat down?

The Pressure to Achieve the Perfect Christmas

The toughest part of the Christmas race is the last lap and the week before the big day. Looking for multiple delayed deliveries, seeking a parking spot at the mall where it seems all the new drivers that have just passed their tests have congregated, and of course the dreaded Christmas card.

This years card was actually almost finished on time.Except someone forgot to inform me that  there was a newly appointed Editor in Chief, namely my daughter. If I had listened to my inner voice, another task would have been removed from the list… but no it is back to the drawing board  to go through another 1,000 pictures, memory cards, and phones for the perfect one(s).  What about the suggestion to push it off to a New Year card? Never! Because it’s Christmas people.

“One can never have enough socks,” said Dumbledore.

“Another Christmas has come and gone and I didn’t get a single pair. People will insist on giving me books.”
― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone

Fear of failure is an ever present ghost of Christmas. It’s not a real fear it is a self inflicted one.  Not wanting to fail your kids in what was your own favorite memory is a tough battle to fight. So we stress too much, buy too much and  miss the opportunity to just be part of the season. I think this is even more present as a single parent as you fill a hole that maybe feels like something  is somewhat missing.

“Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before! What if Christmas, he thought, doesn’t come from a store. What if Christmas…perhaps…means a little bit more!”
― Dr. Seuss, How the Grinch Stole Christmas!

It does mean “a little bit more”, so breath. Take a shot from your Inhaler, or Eggnog or whatever takes you to your happy calm place. Remember this is not your first or last Christmas. All will be well, and by noon on the 25th you will be adding paper and boxes to the landfill (OK, recycle people). Don’t sprint the last weeks mile, exhausted and out of breath. Slow down and enjoy the pace  and check your reason for the season.

Christmas Self Check

  • Watch your attitude – Ask yourself –  Why am I doing this and for whom?
  • Watch the competition  – What is my motivation – Am I trying to compete with my past, my ex, my kids attention?
  • Ask Yourself – “Am I having fun?”  – Stress is not fun nor is an an early heart attack.

I remember once getting a wrapped “whisper” chocolate bar for my birthday. It was not what I wanted, but what we could afford at the time, and I still  remember it tasted great! (and no it was not a Wonka bar). Its all about attitude people! And Santa can see yours…

Make sure that you do not make this season –

“Always winter but never Christmas.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe

With Love and four days left,


P.S.  – And After the 25th why not –

“I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.”
― Charles Dickens



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Thom. Thom is the originator and alter-ego of ivemovedon.com. Divorce Survivor, Single Parent, and now moving on to new adventures in Life. Follow his journey here every week, or on Instagram and Facebook.

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