Vow Me?  A post-divorce love story…

Vow Me? A post-divorce love story…

“I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge myself to you.”

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It was a long time ago (not in a galaxy far, far away), and I was very young.  I can remember the details of the day and almost fainting. I can remember saying those words but at the time with the excitement of the day, I’m not sure how much they sunk in.  A vow is a solemn promise, pledge, or personal commitment. It’s pretty deep stuff. So, what happens when someone breaks their vow? With a good portion of the population getting divorced and remarried, does that “vow” count? Have you thought or have you made it to another? What will be the difference this time? A we transition from married to divorced to possibly consider one day the “m” word how did you moveon? I really would love to hear and share your stories as there are many happily ever after re-married couples.

So where would you start? In the words of “MJ” I think the best place is “starting with the man in the mirror.”

Make a new vow. To yourself…

Not in a self-indulgent way  “I vow to never carry a fake purse…” or “I vow to be the boss in every future relationship”, but Commit to help and invest in others, become selfless, giving, invest in your own personal growth, live to become more physically and mentally healthy.

So lets create a new vow to ourselves (narcissists need not apply)..

“I, ___, take myself, to move on from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, to improve my health and wellbeing, to love and respect who I am and where I am, and be a blessing to those around me till death.”

With Love


P.S. Send your stories of your new vows to thom@ivemovedon.com.


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Thom. Thom is the originator and alter-ego of ivemovedon.com. Divorce Survivor, Single Parent, and now moving on to new adventures in Life. Follow his journey here every week, or on Instagram and Facebook.

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1 Comment

  1. Lily
    November 11, 13:38 Reply
    I think it's really good idea to start your new beginning with new vow. I believe that our words attract something and if we are telling the same sentence everyday, like "I'm happy and I love myself" - eventually it becomes true. I think people should read this vow every morning and after few days they will feel better.

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